Everyone wants to know how to be more popular, more interesting, more charming, more accessible and less introverted. But for something as subjective as charm, attractiveness and humor, are there really ways to improve these fundamental aspects of yourself? Surprisingly, yes.
Just as you can train and eat well to improve your appearance, perfect your speaking skills by talking with more people and going out more. Also, improve your public speaking skills by speaking in front of several people and sometimes embarrassing yourself. You will be more funny. Ask a stand-up comedian.
” They say it takes 10 years to really find his voice. So I do not think I’ve been able to do it yet , “said Chris Gersbeck, comedian in New York. However, comedy is always a way forward and he has spent the last three years giving that voice and using comedy as a way to overcome his shyness and stress. ” I’ve talked to comedians who have been doing comedy for decades and they’re always nervous. When I realized that it would always be the case, I learned to live with it .
In this article, Gersbeck offers tested and approved ways to overcome your blockages and make a woman laugh.
1. Be comfortable with yourself
Just as writers are asked to ” write about what they know, ” your sense of humor must follow this same rule. ” I find that drawing on personal experience is what works best. Trialix Some of the best comedians base their game on self-deprecation. You make fun of yourself shows that you are cool and laid back . Self-depreciation can go from funny to strange if you do too much. It’s one thing to be joking about being potted or suckling in the kitchen, but insisting that your life is void will quickly bring pity on those around you, which is never fun.
2. Practice “the word economy”
Knowing when to quit is an essential skill when you want to make people laugh. ” The word economy is super important “. In other words, you do not have to talk a lot to be funny. Some of the funniest people are masters of word economy for when they have something important to say. Stop and listen. Humor is largely based on interaction, knowing your audience, and knowing when to talk and when to shut up. Telling too many jokes will drown the jokes that fly.
3. Do not be afraid to be nerdy
Being deliberately nerdy is a good thing. It’s a sure way to make people laugh without being offensive, especially if you do not know her or do not yet know her sense of humor. Humor does not have to be particularly unique or intelligent. The best laughs are sometimes cheap laughs and if elaborate humor is not your forte, try some nerdy jokes to break the ice. However, do not forget, especially in this case, to practice the economy of words of which we just spoke. ” Some people like nerdy jokes,” says Gersbeck. Not me .
4. Do not make a joke if you think you’re going to fail
Your cat just died? You lost your job? Do you feel depressed? So do not try to be funny. Women do not expect you to be funny all the time and if you have to force yourself to be funny, it shows and it’s hypocritical. Do not put pressure on yourself to be funny all the time. It does not matter if you are not sometimes. ” Nobody likes when someone is still doing humor. Take a break from time to time and be yourself. There is a good reason why we do not hear much Gallagher anymore .
5. Establish an area in which you will not venture
Humor and irreverence are great ways to handle bad situations, but set limits. It’s funny to alleviate an embarrassing or difficult situation, such as when you have spilled a drink on yourself or missed a restaurant reservation. Making fun of yourself and laughing at it are good ways to reduce tension, but do not tell a joke if your grandmother just died. ” Making humor in awkward or difficult situations can be very therapeutic, but only if the situation lends itself to joking ,” says Gersbeck. Making jokes about others’ misfortunes does not usually work . Humor must never be cruel.
6. Perfect your talents
What good are friends or family if you can not test your humor on them? Stand-up comedians need to get on stage to improve and, unless you’re ready to dive head-first into the stand-up (if that’s the case, get started), you can test your humor on a public of confidence and who will not judge you, before using it during your appointments with your partner. This will also give you the opportunity to discover what kind of humor you are doing. Are you one of those with casual humor? Are you more adept at physical humor and imitation? Are you good at telling long detailed stories or rather for quick, witty observations? Some people are made for physical humor while others are more gifted for intellectual humor. ” It’s a great way to hone your skills for an appointment, but your family and friends will hate you , warns Gersbeck. My mother stopped responding to my SMS several months ago .
7. If you fail, do not blame yourself for not being funny
Forced humor is awkward humor, making jokes all day is more annoying than entertaining and talking too much usually means you do not say anything. It does not matter if you are not particularly funny. It’s better to accept it than to try to be someone you are not. ” Telling jokes or stand-up is not good for everyone. I do not want to discourage you, but if you think you’re not funny, why would she think otherwise? “. Concentrate on your other qualities. You may be incredibly intelligent or a fantastic listener. Perfect these strengths to build a strong foundation for your relationship with a woman. Once you have crossed a certain threshold, you will be surprised to notice that your level of comfort and your understanding of what makes him happy will bring you a sense of intimate humor. ” They say that acceptance is the key to serenity. It is also said that Dr. Pepper light has the same taste as Dr. Pepper normal so nothing is true .